Having it All
I recently attended a wedding of a dear friend of mine. During the ceremony, the officiate read letters that the couple had written to each other. The original plan was to read part of the letters to keep the ceremony short and then at the last minute, she chose to read the full letters. In the end, that part of the ceremony was the most touching (I don’t think there was a dry eye in the audience).
Almost a year ago, I attended a women’s wellness retreat in Costa Rica with another dear friend of mine. I was finishing a busy year of amazing travel and work – and it was a busy year. Time is generally my greatest obstacle to retreat, and I treated myself to a week of relaxation and rejuvenation. At one point in the retreat, I had an AHA! realization that I had an old belief system that I could have success and an amazing career OR an amazing relationship – not both. In that moment, I realized I CAN have it all, and that became my mantra. I thought it, I said it, I sang it over and over. The experience was not unlike my affirmation that helped me heal from my autoimmune disease and led me to my work helping others find health.
At the end of the week, we did a practice that I love – we wrote letters to ourselves to be mailed back to us months later. I have recently reread the letter over and over again and am amazed at how much of the letter has manifested for me this year.
From the Jungle House, Costa Rica . . .
Remember who you are - beautiful, successful, accomplished, intelligent, and full of pleasure. Remember sunset surfing and the continuous waves and sunset light sandwiched between ocean and dark clouds. Remember your confidence especially regarding men this week. You deserve and are capable of having it all. Don’t settle for someone who can’t handle the depth of you. Remember Jessica and Emily’s words about this. You are worthy of someone handsome, kind, sexual, fun, passionate, wealthy, athletic who loves traveling and taking you on pleasurable trips and taking you to dinner and camping - who loves to cuddle and spend time at home. A man who is supportive, rather than critical. Who is very much a man.
Remember to allow yourself retreat at least once a year and your own travels. Trust your instincts. Love yourself. Take care of yourself. Remember what people see in you. Remember what mom sees in you. Remember the dream where she restructured your room and changed the sheets. Remember the chocolate, naked swimming, Madonna dance party, laughing, peeing iguanas, yoga, smoothies with raw cacao and fresh coconut milk, the sand in your feet, pineapple ginger sorbet, new friends, conversations, the law of attraction, restorative yoga and cleansing rain, bikinis and feeling free, and dancing.
(P.S. A month after I returned, I met the man in my letter. I was able to break through an old belief system and have a year of “having it all.” This year I’m co-leading the retreat in Costa Rica.
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